Dear Abby

Dear Abby,

I just moved her from Wausau and am trying to learn the ropes! I stream Y100 on the internet, so I'm already very acquainted with all of you and love your station! But I need some advice on the cool things to do in Green Bay. Any advice?

New in GB

Dear New,

Welcome!! And thanks for streaming us! I personally love Green Bay. I moved here almost 4 years ago and I don't want to leave! Make sure you check out shows at the Resch Center and the Meyer Theatre. Whether its local or national acts, they always have something fun going on! Also, make sure you stop out at Tom, Dick, and Harry's. Its a new restaraunt here in Green Bay and attached to it is a concert hall that also has local and national music acts. Bay Park Square mall is on Oneida Street and pretty much has any store you need. Make sure you experience the nightlife on Washington Street in downtown Green Bay also...anyone else have any suggestions???? Please post them under the comment section and help out New in GB!

Dear Abby,

There is a girl that I am totally into! However, we are very good friends and I'm trying to change that status, but I think she's trying to keep it there...or not! I don't know! We keep making plans to watch a movie or grab some dinner, but something always comes up! Coming from another girl, what is she doing?

Confused in Green Bay

Dear Confused,

Hmmmm, you know, even though I'm a girl, I can't speak for the one in your life! We are all different and have different emotions, feelings, and reasons, but I'll do my best! When she blows you off, does she make any attempt to rain check? In my opinion, its a great idea to date someone who started off as a friend. Yes, you might be risking a nasty break up and a ruined friendship, but you also might have just met "the one". If you're not getting any negative vibes off of this girl and she treats you with respect, then keep making plans until she commits. It might be frustrating, but prove to her how much you want this. Good luck, but keep your guard up just incase she's actually blowing you off:)

Dear Abby,

My boyfriend recently moved to Chicago because of a job.  We have dated for over 3 years and are in love and are more than willing to make this work.  Any advice or suggestions on how to make this work?

Lonely in Green Bay

Dear Lonely,

I can't say that I've ever been in your situation, I broke up with my boyfriend when I went to college, so I never had to try to make it work. I admire your will to make this relationship work, and while I can't really give you any advice, I can give you some suggestions that I would try.  First of all, try to see each other as much as possible. If you have vacation days from work or if you're free on the weekends, alternate making the trip to see each other. Also, try to still do activities together.  Watch your favorite TV shows while being on the phone with each other and act like you're sitting next to each other on the couch.  Try to talk everyday...keep each other up-to-date on your lives. If something interesting happened at school or work, let him know! If you made a new friend or bought a new outfit, let him know! Also, constantly remind each other of how much you love each other. Remind each other of the future, whether it be marriage or continuing your courtship a little bit longer, make sure you're always looking ahead. And don't be afraid to take advantage of this long distance relationship. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. When you do get to be with each other, it is going to be so special. If you are really in love, you'll make this work. Best of luck!

Dear Abby,

My boyfriend of 3 years and I just broke up, but we still share mutual friends, alot of which happen to be men.  Here's the deal, we broke up about 3 weeks ago, and these guys that I thought were friends are flirting with me and constantly hitting on me when we go out. Were they just waiting for me to be single? Or are they just having fun?

Hit On in Appleton

Dear Hit On,

Sorry to hear about your recent break up.  Obviously, I can't tell you what your guys friends are thinking because I don't know their current or past relationship with you. Here's what I think though...you are now single after 3 years of being taken...I think they're looking at you as fresh meat! You have been their friend for who knows how long and you were untouchable...you were dating their friend! Now, you are single and you are a whole new adventure. I could be totally wrong. Maybe they were always this way, but you never noticed because you were taken and in love with someone else. Whichever one it is...just be careful. Jumping into a new relationship after being in one for so long could hurt you in the long run.  Be careful with your heart, but also don't forget to have fun!!!

Dear Abby,

My recent boyfriend and myself broke up about two weeks ago because he says we are way two different.  I wouldn't give his friends a chance so he says.  Here is the deal, I had a really bad sinus infection(cigarette smoke doesn't help at all), and he was going out with his roommate, a friend(who introduced us), and the friend who introduced us-his cousin.  Well, the boyfriend wanted me to go along but I didn't want to because of how much the smoke bothered me.  Well, that day that we were supposed to go, he texted me saying it wasn't going to work between us and that he wanted to be friends. 
 
Here's the deal, I'm giving him his space, and in a little over a week, the mutual friend that introduced us is having a birthday party, do you think it will be enough time for space, or do you think he isn't even going to try to be friend?
 
~Anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

It is hard having a romantic relationship with someone when you don't get along with the people they care about. I'm sorry that he wasn't able to find a way to be there for you and his friends on seperate accounts, but anyway, you said you're afraid that not enough time has passed for him to have his space? WHO CARES?! Seriously, this is a mutual friend...you go about your business and you know what the one perk of a break up is? He isn't your problem anymore. If he feels uncomfortable seeing you there...he knows where the door is. Don't worry and have fun! You are a single gal on the lose! Show him what he's missing and what a terrible mistake he made! And you said this friend introduced you, maybe some sparks will come back and the romance can come back to life if you like, but remember, it is your life...let YOUR heart lead you.

Dear Abby,

I have been dating my boyfriend now for almost 2 years and I believe he is the one! However, I found myself getting jealous the other night and I am disappointed in myself. I got jealous because while at his apartment, I was using his laptop to go on Facebook and he was still logged in, and I admit I was in the wrong, but I started to snoop.  Most of his friends on Facebook are women I don't know. I also went through his private messages and he has been writing to his previous ex. Nothing inappropriate or threatening, but why does he need to talk to her? Am I over-reacting?

Jealous in Green Bay

Dear Jealous,

I can't point fingers because I too have gone into Facebook territory that isn't mine. It's hard to resist when he's still logged in! Here is the deal, the women that he has on Facebook, how do we know he even knows them? You know how irritating Facebook can be when you have 20 friend requests everytime you log in. He might not even know them! And the ex-girlfriend thing, here's the deal. If it were me, I would confront him about it. The messages might not have been threatening or inappropriate, but why is he talking to her? The ex is always threatening to the new girlfriend, and sometimes guys have a hard time realizing that. I don't think you have anything to worry about, but I would sit down and have a calm talk with him about it. Always talk to your significant other if something in your relationship feels uncomfortable! Don't be afraid! That's what they're there for!

Dear Abby,

My wife is one who needs to be told all the time that I love her. It doesn't irritate me, I actually think its kind of cute. Here's the problem, I am not one who needs the constant reminder. I know she loves me and I don't need to hear it 24/7, but she does. What are some ways that women would appreciate to know that they are loved?

Clueless Man in Appleton

Dear Clueless Man,

JOIN THE CLUB! Men always have problems expressing their love, but here are some cute ways that you can tell her you love her. Go to an online greeting card website.  Most are free and easy and take 1 minute to put together. Email it to her while you know she's on the computer and I guarantee it'll put a smile on her face. What about short text messages? When you find a free minute of time, send her a quick text that maybe says, " I <3 U". She'll love it! The fact that you are thinking about her randomly throughout the day will mean the world to her! Don't forget to do little favors for her too. Clean the house, cook dinner, or maybe even make her a homemade card that expresses your love for her. Some of these things may seem silly to you, but I guarantee to her, it'll mean the world.

Dear Abby,

I have had a crush on this guy for over a year.  He is a "friend" in the circle of friends I hang out with. Nothing has ever come from it, but I am waiting...or I was. We flirted all the time and we always laugh together. He recently asked out my best friend and now my heart is totally broken. They aren't a couple, but they've gone on a couple dates and I feel totally broken.  How do I confront this problem?

Betrayed in Chilton

Dear Betrayed,

I hate to be blunt, but I have to say I'm having a hard time seeing how you were betrayed.  How was your friend supposed to know you liked the guy? Or how was the guy to know? You cannot be mad at someone else because you were too afraid to take a chance. No one can help feelings, so express them, and if they are not recriprocated, then at least you gave it your all. Don't be hard on yourself, but do not end friendships over this. The only person who was aware of your feelings was you. If you believe that you are in love, let both parties know before their relationship blossoms into something more.

Dear Abby,

My girlfriend and I don't go out much. We both are both part time and we've had many hours and shifts cut lately and at the moment it is even hard to pay the bills, so dates are currently out of the question. Any suggestions for some cheap fun dates?

Cheap Romantic in Pulaski

Cheap Romantic...I hear you! Money is tight right now and dates seem to not be as frequent as they once were, but I have a couple ideas of what you two could do, and please, get your mind out of the gutter! ;) Ok, how about game night? Pull out your favorite games and test each other's knowledge. Or how about spa night? Turn your bathroom into a spa. Light the candles and break out the bubble bath. A massage may be just the ticket for a great date that builds connection without breaking the bank. There's no shame in cheap food either! Find restaurants that have deals for dinner for two.  There's a restaurant that I went to where for $35 we got 2 dinners, 2 salds, 2 deserts, and a bottle of wine. It was great! Also, what about just being together....just laying on the couch watching TV and enjoying each other's company is one of the most romantic things a couple can do together. Re-visit why you fell in love in the first place. The economy will get better and your pockets will be fuller again. Just be patient, but don't forget to stay in touch with each other and don't let money control your love. :P

Dear Abby,

I have been dating a guy for about a month and have known him for a total of three.  I want to marry him....I swear this is it. It was love at first sight and I am ready to take this relationship to the next step.  My friends and family aren't very supportive...they think I'm crazy and moving to quick and that if we get married, it'll end in divorce. What do you think?

Moving Quickly in Appleton

Dear Moving Quickly,

Here's the deal...I've never been in a situation before where I felt love at first sight and technically, I don't believe in it.  I believe in "lust" at first sight. To really love someone you have to take the time to get to know them and appreciate them for who they are and what they believe in.  You might love him, but I'm not sure you're IN love with him. My opinion only. I recently met a couple who met on September 1 and were married October 3rd.  They have been happily married for 22 years so that just goes to show that my beliefs can be wrong on this subject. It is hard to give advice to you because I don't know what you're feeling.  No one can tell you who or how to love, that is totally up to you. If I were you, I would wait the relationship out for a while just incase you are still in the "honeymoon" phase, but if you in your heart of hearts believe that this is it, then go for it. No use putting off happiness! Good luck!

Dear Abby,

I am 15 years old and was recently dumped by my boyfriend of 1 year.  We started dating my Freshman year of high school and now we're broken up and I'm very upset.  I am the only one of my friends who doesn't have a boyfriend and I'll probably be the only one who doesn't have a date for prom.  I'm stressing. What should I do to get over this guy. :(

Crying Teenager in GB

Dear Crying Teenager,

I have to say, you have a case of "Taylor Swift Syndrome" and how cliche' is it that you're 15?! I was 15 once too and was also dumped by my boyfriend at 15...to be blunt...it sucked.  You are starting a new chapter of your life. High school is going to change you and open many doors to you and you're going to decide on colleges and what career choices to take. The reason why I say you might have a case of the "Taylor Swift" is that if you listen to many of her songs, she was banking on long term relationships and maybe even marriage with some of these guys, and she was 15, 16, and 17 when she wrote them. It is important to remember that you are just a kid, and you should embrace it.  Take advantage of exploring where your life is taking you and don't concentrate on something as permanent as marriage. Yes, you got dumped, but who cares!? You're going to break a few hearts too in life. Also, don't let your friends influence relationships. If you and this guy are not meant to be, don't let the pressures of what your friends are doing lead you to go a different way than what your heart is saying. Enjoy your adolescence because you're going to miss it someday.

Hello All!

No advice today because I've been busy all weekend getting to know my new niece! She is the first grandchild in my family and the beautiful daughter of my brother Adam and his wife Rachael. I've been an Auntie for 2 days and I'm already planning her 21st birthday...she's going to be a rockstar! I mean...a country star! Anyway, I wanted you all to see her so that you know why I'm so in love already.  I'm in such a good mood that I am feeling pretty generous...I'm going to give you a bonus keyword and I bet you can't guess what it is...let's go with Madelyn! And thank you for all the kind wishes for my brother and his new family on Facebook, I'll be sure to pass them along!